At the age of 4 I was enrolled in dance lessons. My parents told me that when it came show time, if I didn’t know the steps I would simply stand on stage while the others danced . “Tina, you were such a perfectionist. If I couldn’t do it perfectly you wouldn’t try.” REALLY?? That is how I shaped my life. I told myself, like others did, that I was a perfectionist. This became my reasoning for most of my life. The truth is, this is really a lie, an unintentional lie, but still a lie.
I have recently been listening to Brendon Burchard, the world’s leading high performance coach and one of the most-watched, quoted and followed personal development trainers in history. He says it like it is, not holds barred. To be a perfectionist really means that you have to “perfect” something. To “perfect” something means you have to complete it. What stands in our way? Is it lack of focus, multiple distractions, down right laziness or sometimes-good ole fear?
Have you found yourself saying: I don’t know if I want to take this on, I am a perfectionist. Or, I can’t seem to move ahead because I am a perfectionist. I am a perfectionist so I can’t get it done the way I like. Often times what ends up happening is something is started, but never finished. If this sounds like you, you are certainly not alone. I have always enjoyed being busy. Busy with work, with the kids, with family and friends, volunteering. You name it and I would add it to my list and keep moving. That is until I started making time for my own self discovery on Personal Leadership. This included my values, my mission, my purpose and my ethics. I did not realize that I was avoiding. Avoiding areas that needed more focus or more time than I was willing to give. In all honesty, I don’t believe I am a perfectionist. I am confident that in the past, if something seemed too difficult I simply wouldn’t try.
Today, I am a living example of my craft. I plan for the distractions, complications, setbacks and obstacles, so I can smile with the completion, successes and celebrations.
Are you a perfectionist? You DESERVE to live a happy, fulfilled and positively challenged life.
Until next time,
Stay authentic and keep smiling!